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           Real Love, What is It:

  Love and Practicing

Love is a wide range of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection like the love one feels for a mother ("I love my mother") to pleasure enjoyment derived from experiences ("I loved that meal"). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment.

Real love has many qualities.

Love often includes that wonderful spark of physical attraction, but it goes beyond just that. At its core, love is deeply rooted in friendship. When you truly love someone, you embrace the entirety of who they are. You enjoy being with that person and sharing things with them.

Real love is unselfish.

Love is willing to make sacrifices for those it treasure. At its core, love embodies a deep commitment; it stands strong and perseveres,  It does not give up or quit when problems come along.

Real love brings out the best in you.

You want the person you love to feel proud of you. When you’re simply love-sick, you might find yourself daydreaming and taking it easy. But when your love is genuine, it drives you to put in the effort, make plans, and think about the future. True love isn’t just a fleeting emotion that catches you off guard; it takes time to grow and advance. Many popular songs can give the misleading impression that love at first sight is the real deal

Real love grows over time.

Real love isn’t something you fall into; it’s a journey of growth. To truly love someone, you first need to understand them. Love at first sight isn’t genuine because it’s impossible to know someone completely in a brief moment. You might feel an instant attraction or be drawn to someone physically, but that initial spark isn’t the same as real love. True connection comes from knowing and understanding a person deeply.

Satan does not want you to know and experience true love.

The individual promotes various forms of false love, aiming to encourage engagement in sexual activity outside of marriage. The intention is to disrupt one's life in a way that may lead to the perception that life is not worth living.

God loves you supremely and desires only what is best for you. He wants you to have precious love—not cheap sex. If it is His will for you to be married, He has just the right person for you.

He wants you to have a mate who loves you unselfishly and is committed to you for life. And He likewise wants you to be committed to that person for life. He wants your home to be a little bit of heaven on earth.

It is important to understand that God loves you deeply and desires what is truly best for you. His intention is for you to experience genuine and valuable love, rather than engaging in superficial and short-lived relationships. If marriage is part of His plan for you, He has a specific person in mind who will be the perfect match for you. God desires for you to have a life partner who loves you selflessly and is dedicated to a lifelong commitment with you. In return, He also wants you to be fully committed to that person for the entirety of your lives together. Ultimately, God's desire is for your home to be a place of love, peace, and fulfillment, akin to a glimpse of heaven on earth.

LOVE,  LUST and SEXUAL ATTRACTION ---- What the Different?

LUST

1. Very strong sexual desire

2. A passionate desire for something

Lust is an intense desire to satisfy one’s sexual appetite. Lust often to satisfy one's sexual appetite. Lust is frequently mistaken for love, despite being fundamentally different.

Lust is SELFISH  —

The emphasis is on getting something. Lust demands immediate satisfaction. Lust says, “I

want it for my own pleasure, I want it regardless of the consequences, and I want it now.”

LOVE

1. An intense feeling of deep affection

2. A person or thing that one loves.

Love is UNSELFISH —

The emphasis is on giving. Love wants what is best for the other person. Love is willing to wait. Real love will wait for the right time and the right circumstances.

The Bible gives examples of both lust and love.

Such as the case of Amnon, one of King David's sons, who mistook his intense desire for his half-sister Tamar as love. Driven by his selfish desires, Amnon forced Tamar to have sex with him,

only to later realize that his feelings were not genuine love but rather lust. 

This story illustrates the stark contrast between the selfish nature of lust and the unselfishness of genuine love.

lust

What happened next?

He no longer cared for her. In fact, he hated her. Amnon’s “love” was not love at all. It was lust

Real love.

On the other hand the Bible tells of the love which Jacob had for Rachel. Jacob had to work for Rachel’s father seven long years in order to obtain Rachel as his wife. Jacob was willing to work and wait for Rachel because his love was the real thing. The Bible says that the seven years “seemed unto him but a few days” because of the love he had for her.

Sexual attraction

Sexual attraction is physical attraction between a fellow and

a girl. We are built with a sex drive which causes us to be interested in the opposite sex. There is nothing wrong or sinful about this.

God made us that way. Sin comes when we attempt to satisfy our sexual drive in the wrong way.

Sexual attraction refers to the physical attraction between a man and a woman. As humans, we are naturally built with a natural sex drive, which leads to our interest in the opposite sex. It's important to note that there is nothing naturally wrong or sinful about experiencing sexual attraction, as it is a natural part of human biology. This feeling is believed to be a result of the way we are created by a higher power, such as God. However, problems arise when we try to fulfill our sexual desires in ways that are considered inappropriate or harmful.

To be sexually attracted to someone does NOT mean that you are in love with that person.

 A fellow sees a girl with a beautiful figure and he says, “Wow!” A girl sees a handsome football player and her heart skips a beat or two. Is that love? No, it’s simply physical attraction between a fellow and a girl. Movies, television, magazines, and books constantly bombard us with this idea: “Find someone who turns you on…if you have a good sex life, that’s all that matters.” The campus beauty queen marries the former captain of the football team and everybody sighs and says, “What a handsome couple!” But in a short while, their marriage is broken. Why? Because there was no real love between them. They were just sexually attracted to each other and had little in common besides that. They soon became bored with each other.

Remember, sexual attraction is not love.

There is a vital place in marriage for sexual attraction, but a marriage cannot be built on sexual attraction alone. There are couples by the thousands who could not or did not resist sexual involvement before they were married, but now they cannot stand to touch each other.

All About Relationships

Love is a complex and deeply felt emotion that holds significant meaning for human beings. There are various forms of love, with many individuals seeking to express it within a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some people, romantic relationships are a crucial aspect of their lives, offering profound fulfillment. The capacity to cultivate a healthy and loving relationship is not inherent, as substantial evidence indicates that it begins in infancy through a child's initial interactions with a caregiver who consistently meets their needs for nourishment, care, protection, stimulation, and social interaction. While these early relationships do not determine one's fate, they do establish patterns for how individuals relate to others. Failed relationships can occur due to various factors, and the breakdown of a relationship often leads to significant psychological distress. Developing the necessary skills to navigate and maintain successful relationships typically requires conscious effort and dedication.

LOOKING FOR A BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND  

     If you need to go find a boyfriend or girlfriend, if you feel lonely and want someone to talk to, to accompany you everywhere you go, then it's all right. But don't look around anymore. Once you find one, stick with it and work for it because that is how you'll be happy and be satisfied  The more partners you have, the less happy you are, believe me! That is why all the wise adviser will advise you to take only one spouse. It's not because they're jealous of you or tell you anything else. It's not about being moral, even; it is for your own sake that you should be married or only have one partner (Gen 2: 22-25, v.24 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife(singular) and they will become one flesh”). Apart from being immoral, of course, it causes harm, hurt and injury emotionally to other people if you're flying around too much, hitting everyone in the heart. It creates unhappiness when you do that - very, very unhappy. You will feel empty and course death in some areas. (1 John 3:11-12, v.18 Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with action and truth”).

 There is a difference between making love and having sex. Let me tell you straight. There's nothing wrong with that. Making love is that you are involved - emotionally, spiritually, bodily, mentally - together, to be one, to be united with your partner, sharing all this love and affection you have. All of your being is involved in it ( Gen 2:24 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and they will become one flesh”)

     Having sex is just satisfying this temporary lust for a while, and then you will feel very empty. Sometimes you will feel very guilty and get sick from it, and get terrible diseases also. Because you do it as a habit, any partner will do, you'll forget to be cautious. And your body resistance is not there to even combat the disease, should it be there, because you're low in moral standards, in emotional fulfillment, low in spiritual guard, and low in mental preparation. Everything is low at the time when you just have casual sex. Your body's weak, your mind is weak, your spirit is weak, and so when you catch a disease, you're finished. (Proverb 5:1-13, 6:20-35, 7:1-27)

If you are seeking a romantic partner to alleviate feelings of loneliness and provide companionship, it is important to commit to a single relationship rather than seeking multiple partners. Fostering a committed, long-term relationship is key to experiencing fulfillment and happiness. Having multiple partners typically leads to decreased happiness and satisfaction, as advised by wise counselors. The recommendation to seek one spouse is not rooted in jealousy or moral judgments, but rather in the pursuit of personal fulfillment and emotional well-being, as indicated in Genesis 2:22-25. Engaging in multiple relationships can cause emotional harm and unhappiness, resulting in a sense of emptiness and even spiritual and emotional decay, as expressed in 1 John 3:11-12. It is essential to differentiate between making love and simply having sex. Making love involves a deep emotional, spiritual, and physical connection, aiming for unity and mutual affection, as described in Genesis 2:24. On the other hand, engaging in casual sex to solely satisfy temporary desires can lead to feelings of emptiness, guilt, and potential health risks. This approach may result in weakened moral, emotional, spiritual, and mental well-being, leaving individuals vulnerable to disease, as highlighted in Proverbs 5:1-13, 6:20-35, and 7:1-27.

Making love to your Partner

It's not the same as making love to your partner. You experience joy, love, affection, and a sense of unity and trust. Everything is elevated: Your passion, spirit, intellect, and emotions are all at an all-time high. Your affection is complete. You are a higher level being as a result. You are impervious to touch. All resistance is at your disposal (Ephesians 5:22–33). Your body heals itself if a minor illness strikes. The entire being is ready for this ultimate act of love, commitment, and unity between two people, so it doesn't even come to you. You merge into one (Gen 2:24). He will become one flesh with his wife if they are united. So, everything is fine. It's all pure. You don't You don't feel filthy; you don't feel guilty; you don't feel empty afterward. You don't feel exhausted. You might be a little tired but just from happiness. This differs from the weariness, emptiness, and sucked-out sensation that arise when you misuse sexuality for your own bodily gratification. That is completely different. Because it will make us happy, we must be faithful and work at our relationship. It is the most important thing to us, and everything else comes in second. (Proverbs 5:15–23, verses 18–19.) May you be happy with your young wife. A devoted doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts always fulfill you, may her love enchant you.

Any guidelines that educators in the past provided to us the ocean of wisdom. They are not limitations; they are not a means of control; they are not statements that dictate. It would be extremely prudent to abide by them since they are for our own benefit and happiness. (Prov 1:8–9) "Listen to your father's guidance, my son, and do not disregard your mother's teachings" (Prov 3:1–4). Therefore, avoid looking around too much if you don't want any trouble. You can be courteous and amiable, but avoid purposefully causing trouble, especially for others. Don't look if you know it. Of course, you have problems when you look and don't know. However, that is a different matter. Don't begin if you already know. It's already awful that you're unaware of it and you start.

Then later you have to take care of it. However, you should never begin if you already know that they belong to someone else, as you will be in serious trouble. (Revelation 9:17–18, 6:30–36. V. "A man who commits adultery lacks judgment, so he destroys himself. His lot is shame, and it will never be erased."

             End of Part 1

               Part two

DON’T LOOK AT THE PAST

     Once you have someone else already, the past one, you should just put behind you. It doesn't serve you. Normally when we look at the past, it is always better. We forget the bad parts; we only remember the good parts………..

 

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